Rejection, in any form, affects your mental balance. You get rejected in choosing your life companion, in a job interview, a known face passing by ignoring you or someone close doesn’t wish to listen or act according to your thought process. The degree of rejection can vary, but it gradually culminates into huge proportions in your mind.
Several times in my life I have been rejected, felt helpless, and craved from inside that wish I wouldn’t have acted so stupidly in the first place, wish I wouldn’t have been in this situation! The feeling when you cannot revolt, cannot answer back, and be a mute little child, eats you every single moment.
You hold on to your opinion very strongly and expect that your close ones will accept it. But the moment this peak of expectation is thrashed and converted to dust and swept off immediately, you realize no one cares about your decisions and thought process.
That moment you might surrender to the situation and the person, but for a lifetime, it’s a lesson to be learned. A lesson that has sides to it, your left brain learns and reasons that this rejection acts as a foundation to prepare you for bigger rejections in life and accept the rejection to keep the relationship intact. Your right brain acts intuitively to take charge of the situation and let the rejection & relationships not dominate you.
Whichever side you choose, you will not feel at ease, as with the left side you would feel you have compromised yourself and surrendered to the person. And with the right side, you would feel you compromised your relationship and overpowered the person.
The tall young tree also rejects the dry leaves by shedding them on the ground…but the dry leaves hold a lot of importance. They are very nutrient-rich and they will be natural compost in a garden. You need to derive value after rejection. Similarly, when one loses its importance in another person’s life, he/she is rejected and ignored, but that doesn’t mean you do not have any intrinsic value. The value of a person is not decided by someone’s non-acceptance, but by how well you face rejection and continue to carry a positive outlook towards life.
So if next time you are rejected by anyone, don’t be disheartened. Reflect on why you got rejected, try to improvise if the reason was substantial, or else move on without a second thought.
Rejection par reflection jaruri hai.